Hurting for my family...

I'm hurting for my family today. I wish I could be there to hold and hug them and comfort them. But I am not, I am far away, and while talking on the phone is one thing its a whole other to be there in person for them. Its amazing how much damage the past can be to the present. While deciding that the past is just that, the past, is a wonderful idea and great thing to do, it is so hard to accomplish sometimes. But don't give up! It can be done. I wish I could undo the hurts of the past, I wish I could make them see that its not worth giving up on, but, I don't ever know the right words to say. I try to make it better but sometimes I think I make it worse. Its hard to watch your family fall apart. What can I do to keep it together?